Insights on Achieving With Purpose, Power & Passion
Listen with HorsePower
Listening is a magnet…it’s a strange thing…it’s a creative force. Never underestimate its power! The people who listen to us are the ones we will always move towards. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. We know that person…who is listening to us…really cares.The most successful leaders in business always listen to learn…and then they lead.
When leaders listen – they empower. They gain commitment. When a leader listens, they encourage diversity and collaboration! A true leader must be compelling in their ability to help others embrace change and company values that will lead an organization to success. They have to be able to do more than just verbally communicate. True leadership requires the ability to listen…and listen intently!
Listening at all levels of an organization will foster openness, collaboration and a sharing of ideas. When a person listens, they proved the opportunity to give the gift of meaningful feedback. That gift will enable everyone to feel valuable and grow.
So, I have a few questions for you to think about:
Who have you really, truly, deeply and emphatically listened to lately?
Think about a particular friend, colleague, and family member. How can you use listening to help this person “unfold and expand”? How by listening to this person can a particular challenge or issue be resolved?
Who has listened deeply and intently to you in the past? How did you feel?
What did that mean to you both personally and professionally?
Never underestimate the powerful tool of listening! Listen with HorsePower!
Managing and Developing Emotional Intelligence Skills with HorsePower!
There are Four Attributes in Managing and Developing Emotional Intelligence Skills with HorsePower…
Self-Awareness – learn to recognize your own emotions and understand how they affect your thoughts and behavior. Learn to understand your strengths, weaknesses and “triggers”…and gain control and self- confidence!
Self-Management – When you’re able to control your impulsive feeling, behaviors and emotions in healthy ways…you take initiative, follow through on your commitments and can adapt to any changing circumstances!
Social-Awareness – Understand other people’s emotions, needs and concern. Pick up on emotional cues! Gain confidence in social environments and be able to recognize the power dynamics in any group or organization!
Relationship Management – You’ll learn to develop and maintain good relationships, clearly communicate, inspire and influence other people, work well in a team setting and be an extraordinary resource in managing conflict!
Be empowered with strong Emotional Intelligence Skills Through HorsePower!
Contact us now and learn more about these 4 important Emotional Intelligence Attributes!
Growing your Emotional Intelligence Skills
Can empathy skills be taught? Can you develop your emotional intelligence and empathic capacities and increase trust and builds bonds?
People are born with general emotional intelligence that will determine their potential for learning emotional competencies. Research shows that if EI competencies can be improved, then they are sustainable! Older people show higher levels of empathy, suggesting that empathy may be learned through life experience. The more situations you experience, the easier it will be for you to emphasize with others and “put yourself in their shoes”.
So, while IQ is very much fixed…..EI can be improved with the right motivation!
Tips to improve your Emotional Intelligence:
Ask people questions about their lives, interests, hobbies, their challenges, their families, their aspirations!
Pay attention not only to verbal cues but also to body language. It can say so much more!
Listen without judging. Tricky…but so important.
Use active listening; double check the meaning of what another person is saying by paraphrasing.
Don’t interrupt. Don’t change the subject. Let the person talk….and you listen!
Be fully present with body and mind. Never multi-task! Don’t read e-mails, take calls or think of something else.
Encourage people to speak – especially the quiet ones.
Grow in your emotional intelligence skills! Always!
Learn more about Emotional Intelligence and Empathy and how you can be more successful using these valuable tools…with HorsePower!
For more information about Emotional Intelligence and other topics, contact me at
http://www.betticoffeypresents.com/contact-betti.html
Betti Coffey Presents…Horsepower in Action
Here is a video about Communicating with HorsePower! Enjoy
Big hearts, little hearts, red hearts, white hearts ….you’re going to see a lot of hearts this Valentine’s Day!
While you’re enjoying this Valentine’s Day with your loved ones, remember to take care of your own heart! One of the best ways to do this is by controlling stress!
I once went to a lecture where the speaker, when explaining stress management to the audience raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The answers called out ranged from 2 to 5 pounds.
The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t really matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If you hold it for a minute…no problem. If you hold it for an hour…you’re going to have an ache in your arm. If you hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer you hold it, the heavier it becomes”.
That’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden!
So, before you go any further today, put the burdens away for a while. Don’t carry it with you. You can pick up the issues later. Whatever burdens your carrying right now…let them down for a moment and take a break…it will be good for your heart!
So my friends, on this Valentine’s Day, put down whatever is a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested. Maybe give it a rest for the entire day! It will help your heart, will decrease your stress…and let you enjoy this Valentine’s Day with your loved ones!
I thought I’d share some great thoughts on dealing with stress in life that we all encounter. Enjoy – I hope they make you smile and relax a little:
· A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery … on a detour!
· Always keep your words soft and sweet…you might have to eat them later!
· If you can’t be kind…at least have the decency to be vague!
· Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time because then you won’t have a leg to stand on!
· We could learn a lot from crayons…Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors…but they all have to live in the same box!
Happy Valentine’s Day…and remember that being able to communicate your love and appreciation is the most important form of communication!
Martin Luther King, Jr
Thoughts for Martin Luther King Day….
As we celebrate Martin Luther King – I thought I’d share with you some of his thoughts and quotes. His message, his motivations and his beliefs will stand for all time. These are some of my favorites. I hope they make as large an impact in your life as they have mine. Stay motivated my friends! Betti
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy”.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“All labor that uplifts humanity has dignity and importance and should be undertaken with painstaking excellence”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“If you can’t fly, Run….
If you can’t run, Walk….
If you can’t walk, Crawl….
But by all means, keep moving”!
Martin Luther King, Jr.
A Personal Message from Betti Coffey
Welcome to 2013!January 1st was the first day of the new year…and the first day of a new you!
This week you’re “swimming around in the electric feeling of all that’s possible”! This is fun!
How about more joy, an endless supply of optimism, and unstoppable momentum!
How about better communication, leadership, teamwork, relationship and personal development skills…learning and succeeding with HorsePower!
This is the week to get loud! What do you want more of in 2013? Make yourself accountable by sharing your goals!
Declare it on our Facebook page! Shout it out on Twitter!
I’ll make a deal with you…share your goals with me at betti@betticoffeypresents.com and I’ll personally assist you in accomplishing them!
Courageously answer the question…..What do I want to gain and how do I want to grow in 2013!
Claim you destiny!
I’m looking forward to working and talking with you in 2013!
Remember… “Look forward to looking forward, for what’s behind you is behind you”. I like that…now let’s get moving forward!
Betti C.
www.betticoffeypresents.com
The Power of Gratitude
On behalf of everyone with the Betti Coffey Presents “Communicating with HorsePower” Team, we hope you had a wonderful Christmas and Holiday! I imagine you’re eating leftovers, enjoying family and friends and continuing to appreciate everything this special season brings.
As we close this month’s inspirations for “Appreciation, Gratitude and the Power of Positive Reinforcement”, I want to share these thoughts – especially at this time:
There is nothing more powerful than experiencing gratitude. True appreciation for all the people, places and experiences in your life. Take time to notice everything…large and small. Look at the sky, feel the earth and breathe the air! Listen and take notice of everything that is surrounding you! Take stock of all the things you love and all the things you may take for granted. Appreciate your health, your opportunities and those around you who bring you joy or challenge you to continue to grow! Take time to create or add to your “gratitude list”. Remember, when you express your gratitude – it grows and strengthens beyond imagination! Gratitude is not only the greatest of all assets…it is the parent of all the others!
Grateful for you!
Betti C.
Positive Reinforcement, Appreciation, and Gratitude
Positive Reinforcement, Appreciation, and Gratitude
Thoughts, feelings and behaviors are factors that can affect work performance, relationships, success and self-worth. You can embrace this powerful concept and make it work in every facet of your life!
When you apply positive reinforcement and appreciation in your personal life and workplace, a more positive environment exists, productivity is enhanced…and you feel good…You get that powerful gratitude attitude!
Did you know that the #1 factor in job satisfaction is not the amount of pay but whether an individual feels appreciated and valued for the work they do!
People flourish in an environment of honesty, communication and appreciation. Learn the top 12 easiest ways to express Appreciation and Sincere Gratitude! Experience the interactive “Thank You Challenge”…it will change the way you show appreciation and encouragement!
► Inspire your workplace by encouraging people
► Increase loyalty with employees and volunteers
► Improve your ability to show appreciation
► Reduce cynicism and create a positive environment
There’s a personal benefit and return on investment from showing appreciation and encouragement that you will experience once you understand your “language of appreciation” and energize it!
For more information, contact me betti@betticoffeypresents.com
Temple Grandin
During the Texas Trail of Fame in Ft. Worth a few weeks ago, I had the very special opportunity to meet and speak with Dr. Temple Grandin.
She is a doctor of animal science and professor at CSU, bestselling author, and consultant to the livestock industry on animal behavior. She was the subject of the award winning biographical film “Temple Grandin”, in 2010, and was listed in the Time 100 list of the 100 most influential people in the world in the “heroes” category.
I admire her tremendously and feel very fortunate to have met her. What an opportunity!
